Gary Neuman, Parents advisor and author of Helping Your Child Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.When my divorce was new, talking with my ex was painful.We were angry at each other, and, let's face it, looking for ways to hurt each other.
Then one day, my best friend and co-parent was gone from my life. Okay, that was an exaggeration -- but it's how it felt at the time, and it prompted me into action.A sleeping child has a way of appearing out of thin air -- just when you're cursing out his dad.Remind yourself that each time you keep quiet, you're causing your child a little less pain."Sleep before you send," advises New York City family-law specialist Peter Bienstock."Read the e-mail again in the morning, and make sure it says exactly what you mean." Don't be snide, angry, or sarcastic.